The longer you wait and stay 'just friends' the more likely it is that someone will snatch her up first. If you like her, don't be coy about it. Most women prefer men who are open about their feelings; that all starts with the initial confession of attraction.
Now to try and bring this thread back on track, do you want kind of a sad overview of my recent life story, or just recent events only?
I currently live in a state I don't wanna' be in, in a county with a 24% unemployment rate, working at a dead end job that I've now capped out on salary on; with no friends around me (as they are all in Dallas TX, or in LA So Cal) which, where I'm at? Is over 1k miles away. Bummer.
Is there any hope?
To the girl thing?
Get over the picky-ness thing. If you think her nails are weird now, wait 'til she grates on your nerves later with strange personality disorders you never knew she had til 5 years down the road. No one is perfect. I'll give you 2 lines to go by.
Act on you attraction and just have fun. And yes generally that involves sex but if it's consensual and you're both at least close friends? Then I've always considered it harmless (just for god's sake, be safe about it >.> Also, don't think sex is the only way to have fun either). Just play the game. If she doesn't wanna', she doesn't wanna'. Stay friends and just explore other possibilities. It's cliche, but there are really, plenty of fish in the sea.
If you're looking for something real? Heh, that's an entirely different card. I'm not kidding about the getting over the picky-ness thing. When I say no one is perfect? It's not in meaning that I'm saying "lower your standards". Pshh, no no. By any means, hold your standards high, but don't be stubborn. In a real, deep, long lasting relationship, it's those picky things, those... ever so annoying, frustrating things, that make that person unique to you. When you 2 grow old? Those are the things that make you cry most when that person is gone. How, maybe, through out 40 years of marriage, she always had this habit of leaving her cup out on the coffee table. never putting up when she was done. You'll look at that coffee table, and want that cup to be there, to remind you of her. It's sad sounding at first, but, really, open up your heart to that thought. Those little things. it's always, those little-lest, tiniest things, that you remember of that one you spend your life with. Remember that. Get over your Picky-ness. Perfection with 'Love'? Would make it less memorable.
Okay, now that someone else has also taken this back on track. Four years ago I got divorced, which kind of messed me up at college a bit but then a year later one of my good childhood friends died in a car accident and that really brought me off track for school, so I went on 'leave' during my senior year and still haven't gone back yet because of student loans and crap.
I got fired from a job last December because I missed the only two days they scheduled me (which I was being majorly underscheduled) due to needing to take a trip to the ER for a corneal ulcer. I still have yet to find a decent job because our unemployed is already bad enough; having a 'fired' on my application doesn't help.
At the beginning of August my grandfather in-law (my wife's dad's dad - who was an amazing man) passed away. While we were on the way to his funeral we found out that grandmother in-law (my wife's mom's mom - who was a central figure to our family and was also awesome) passed away that day. She was planning on attending Bud's funeral even though my wife's mom and dad were divorced.
After getting divorced, I made a check list of stuff I had to have in a woman and stuff I would prefer they had. Of course I didn't cover everything because you just can't. My wife, I'm remarried, meet almost everything on both lists. I think the only thing she missed was the fact that she's partial to Star Wars, but in favor she likes Star Trek - which wasn't on my list. You can be picky, but you can't expect a human to be perfect; nobody ever has been and nobody ever will be. Just remember that most importantly, you need to be able to have fun with this person regardless of where you're at and what the weather is like outside.
Also remember, people do change, especially if they're younger. That's the reason my first marriage 'failed.' We married early and grew up while we were going to school. The problem is that we both grew in different directions. As a side note, we're still really good friends. She used to get jealous of my friend, Lindsey, and joked when we separated that I should go out with her. I'm now married to Lindsey and we went to my ex-wife's goodbye party when she moved to California.
I currently live in a state I don't wanna' be in, in a county with a 24% unemployment rate, working at a dead end job that I've now capped out on salary on; with no friends around me (as they are all in Dallas TX, or in LA So Cal) which, where I'm at? Is over 1k miles away. Bummer. Is there any hope?
This may sound obvious..but...just move?
Maybe you can crash with some family or friends there, atleast until you can get a decent job over there.
You dont wanna live in isolation in a dead end job. Lol. When you are older, your prospects of getting a better job will be greatly reduced. So its best to always move up in the world, upgrade yourself, get a better job. Dont be stuck there.
Edit: They say people without close contact to friends have a lower life expectancy too. So gtfo of there:p
Wow, the grim reaper was really busy at your side o.0.
Death always seems like this distant facet of life. Something you think will never affect you Until it does. Its weird..
Kinda reminds me of when my grandfather died. It was all so sudden and unexpected. I regret not telling him that I "Love him", Because well, it was a situation where, We didn`t really show emotion and stuff like that. Im sure he knew it though, but still.
Ha, I honestly dont see what people like in Star trek!!. Lol, but yeah, you make some good points about no one being perfect. I`ll try to work on that and not, I suppose, expect too much from someone
Grandma's death was also very much unexpected. Her husband is terminally ill with cancer and is getting dialysis on a regular basis. All of his funeral plans and etc were all in line. Unfortunately Grandma and the family were all focused on saying goodbye to Grandpa - who is still alive - that Grandma's preparations were not done.
You should expect the world from someone. Of course, some of what you get will be 'flaws' but you need to make sure those are something you can handle.
Same, for everything. If I applied myself in anything that has happened in the past... Well, I wouldn't be in the situation I'm in.
Also, as a moderator you should know that double posting is bad. Edit button is there for a reason, y'know. ;P
And what situation would that be?
Oh yeah, Totally forgot. Must have slipped my mind. Being a wraith, We dont really have one, We are directed by external forces. My will is not my own o.0