Couldn't have worded that better myself. Come to think of it, It's a lot
about havin the balls and not being afraid/intimidated by her.
Yo can't just walk up to some random person and ask questions. Imagine this happening to you, "O hey, you're hot. Wanna go see a movie?" Her - "Uhh NOOO YOU FREAK". You must first let them know you are alive and available before you can make a move.
Yo can't just walk up to some random person and ask questions. Imagine this happening to you, "O hey, you're hot. Wanna go see a movie?" Her - "Uhh NOOO YOU FREAK". You must first let them know you are alive and available before you can make a move.
Is this rule written in stone somewhere? :P
You can just walk up to someone and ask them out! You don't have to get to know them. In fact, if you get to know them then they just want to be friends. If you come out straight and ask them out, then you have the excitement of getting to know them over dating. Don't get trapped in friendship unless that's just what you want. Plus this way you don't waste your time because if she's not interested at all then she just says no and you move on and not waste anymore time.
This is the best way to do it, unless of course you just want a friend and not a girlfriend.
Oh and as for the freak stuff... Unless you come up all creepy like, come from behind her or just randomly blurt I LIKE YOU I WANT TO GO OUT WITH YOU, then yes that will happen. So just be yourself, be calm, confident and introduce yourself and ask her out, she's not gonna call you a freak... She'll take it as a compliment and either say yes or no, it's much simpler than what you are making it out to be.
Be confident, be calm, be secure. A girl likes confidence, a girl needs security, so don't make her feel unsafe is all I can say. -Don't act like a freak and she won't call you one- :)
When we say be confident, it isn't hard. It's not changing who you are. It's changing your mindset. Think positive about yourself, think it will happen, that's all you have to do to be confident. Think & Believe in yourself, that's being confident. It's not to change who you are or how you talk but so you are more positive going into the conversation.
If it's hard to think & believe in something, especially when it's yourself, then yeah I guess it's asking too much... :P
When we say be confident, it isn't hard. It's not changing who you are.
It's changing your mindset. Think positive about yourself, think it will
happen, that's all you have to do to be confident. Think & Believe in
yourself, that's being confident. It's not to change who you are or how
you talk but so you are more positive going into the conversation.
If it's hard to think & believe in something, especially when it's
yourself, then yeah I guess it's asking too much... :P
Same thing with me and dual exersise phys gym classes. It makes it WAAAAAAAY easier to just stay positive and fight!
You have to be straight forward. Walk up to her with swagga and be like...
- hey baby what's up. Your looking fine and I want you to be mine. What time should I pick you up 2night.
or
- girl your fine so I'm going to give you a dime :hand her a dime: because you are a fine piece...
or
- yo baby whats up do you have some :insert racial color: in you? Would you like some?
or pull a vanilla ice
- hey baby why don't you drop the zero and get with a hero? word to yo' mutha.
or
- Hi my name is :insert name here: I have been watching you a long long time and I think you are pretty. Will you go out with me I think our love is fated and we are meant to be together forever. I love you.
or
- walk up to her at a party and wait to she is drunk and be like... hey baby wanna do it in the bathroom....
J/K you don't need a gimmick or catch phrase to get a young ladies attention. Just be yourself kid. Most young ladies like to chase behind boys not the other way around. It is pretty hard to say what will catch the attention of a young lady because everybody is different. Simply try to find out what she likes and when the oportunity presents itself try to strike up a conversation and build a dialogue. Try to read what type of girl she is and if your personality meshes. The pretty ones aren't always the best option because most are vein and insecure and fickle and they get more attention. Learn to set the bar for yourself... don't go for a 10 when your a 5. I do not know how old you are but don't rush. If your in high school or middle school simply try to be friends with her and find a common club or interest.
Try to start out by trying to set up a group date at the movies or something with friends just to hang out. If she says yes move on from there if she says no the just keep it moving... chances are your just infatuated but I really do not know the situation. Be persistant but not too persistant or else you will have a big fat restraining order...
You my friend may have never been to a club or spring break... people hook-up all of the time with people by just randomly walking up to them and introducing themselves.
However this strategy works better if you are confident, good looking, popular, or if your in high school if you have a job and a car.
In High School nothing is more attractive to a young lady than a boy with a car in which she can date and drive around. If you have a car you have an edge up on most boys.
You have a 50/50 shot. I would suggest practicing on other girls that are not so attractive before you go for the gold. establish a method but most improtantly be yourself
Couldn't have worded that better myself. Come to think of it, It's a lot
about havin the balls and not being afraid/intimidated by her.
Yo can't just walk up to some random person and ask questions. Imagine
this happening to you, "O hey, you're hot. Wanna go see a movie?" Her -
"Uhh NOOO YOU FREAK". You must first let them know you are alive and
available before you can make a move.
BTW he already said shes a friend of a friend....
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You my friend may have never been to a club or spring break... people
hook-up all of the time with people by just randomly walking up to them
and introducing themselves.
However this strategy works better if you are confident, good looking,
popular, or if your in high school if you have a job and a car. In High
School nothing is more attractive to a young lady than a boy with a car
in which she can date and drive around. If you have a car you have an
edge up on most boys.
You have a 50/50 shot. I would suggest practicing on other girls that
are not so attractive before you go for the gold. establish a method but
most improtantly be yourself
I hate judging people of their looks but it's very hard not to. The "ugly" ones might be better personalities than the flaming hot and perfect skin ones, agreed. But yeah I'm too young to go clubbing. I'm 16 and a Junior in HS. I don't need a GF quite yet but I am interested in such things :)
Couldn't have worded that better myself. Come to think of it, It's a lot
about havin the balls and not being afraid/intimidated by her.
Yo can't just walk up to some random person and ask questions. Imagine
this happening to you, "O hey, you're hot. Wanna go see a movie?" Her -
"Uhh NOOO YOU FREAK". You must first let them know you are alive and
available before you can make a move.
BTW he already said shes a friend of a friend....
Well in that case he can introduce himself as so-and-so's friend. But imagine being on the street, some completely random person who you have never seen before walks up to you, and says that.
I hate judging people of their looks but it's very hard not to. The "ugly" ones might be better personalities than the flaming hot and perfect skin ones, agreed. But yeah I'm too young to go clubbing. I'm 16 and a Junior in HS. I don't need a GF quite yet but I am interested in such things :)
Girls are confusing when you are 15/16 :(.
And from what I heard they get even more confusing when you get older ><
You could ask your mutual friend to introduce you to her. It's typically easier to break the ice if you're not trying to do so solo.
You could also simply take a deep breath, walk over, and say hello. Mention the mutual friend as a reason for the attempt at contact. "I've seen you with so and so, and I wanted to introduce myself personally." Being direct is from what I know the best way to break that sort of invisibility shell. I would say try to approach her as simply another person rather then just as a girl as well. Keeping in mind that she's a human like you are might help to dispel the nervousness, if you're having a case of the jitters when you try and approach her.
I have to say this reply made me lol. Not because it's bad advice, but because I'm imagining this to be a high school girl. Imagine someone walking up to you and going "Good day old chap, I've seen you with X, and I wanted to introduce myself personally". Can't make that work without owning a top hat, monocle and cigar, tbh.
As for general advice; Soulcarver's advice was fairly sound, just don't fully take it to heart. Like pointed out earlier, just showing outright fear might work as well, but just cornering some 'random' girl and going "Hey, lets go out" comes across as creepy more than anything else. No need to wait too long with making a move, but I'd at least make sure she knows your name and that you've talked a couple of times and likes you. Nobody wants to go to the theatre with a random boy they only know by face.
Yeah I would say it depends on the personality of the young lady. Maybe the chick is weird and is into that kind of stuff.
and @ 14/15 yrs. old... do you really need a girl/boy friend? have they even decended yet? Honestly what would you do on a date? Play pokemon cards.
and the go out and see a disney flick then eat out at mc donalds? I tell you kids grown up to quickly these days thanks to that damn MTV.
as a old man at 24 I must say having a girlfriend around that age was pointless. I mean I had a so called girl friend however we really didn't do anything... I'm actually thinking about a girlfriend I had when i was 13 or 14. We would holding hands.. the furthest we went was me touching her bum... hugging and kissing. We really only ever hung out at school. Mind you I lived on a military base and went to school on a military base so pretty much everyone who lived in the community went to the school we were in... that ended pretty badly on a valentines day that I was sick or something and she was all emotional and bummed. It was kind of weird because her mom kind of encouraged it and said that we could actually date when she was 15... teehee
Ah childhood memories... erhem excuse me I had a point which was... I understand your interest at that age and if you want to be sucessful this is what you do. Get a summer job and save up your money (hopefully your parents are trust worthy... I regret letting my parents hold on to some of my first paychecks to save because they ended up spending the money I saved... I never seen the full amount back and they tried to justify it by saying well... we put a roof over your head... um you have to I freaking 16 mom!!!! stop buy useless crap) study to get your drivers license early and then save your money for a car and try to get on your parents insurrence. Hopefully you score with a family member being able to purchase you a vehicle. By the time you are 16 or 17 in high school... you will easily be able to get a girlfriend... you can do cool things like ditch school to eat lunch or go to the mall... I'm tired so I am going to end my rant here
Just as hint : if you ask a girl for a date - don't , simply DON'T ask for a date to the following places:
theater / cinema
your home / her home (picking her up there is good ... though)
concert (she might hook up with the guy behind, or some random dude left from her, but that depends on concert type :P)
anything were you think "we can be alone" - because she will think "iam alone with that guy ... there for a bunch of time ... so No"
look for something in public were you/her can leave as needed
Yo can't just walk up to some random person and ask questions. Imagine this happening to you, "O hey, you're hot. Wanna go see a movie?" Her - "Uhh NOOO YOU FREAK". You must first let them know you are alive and available before you can make a move.
Is this rule written in stone somewhere? :P
You can just walk up to someone and ask them out! You don't have to get to know them. In fact, if you get to know them then they just want to be friends. If you come out straight and ask them out, then you have the excitement of getting to know them over dating. Don't get trapped in friendship unless that's just what you want. Plus this way you don't waste your time because if she's not interested at all then she just says no and you move on and not waste anymore time.
This is the best way to do it, unless of course you just want a friend and not a girlfriend.
Oh and as for the freak stuff... Unless you come up all creepy like, come from behind her or just randomly blurt I LIKE YOU I WANT TO GO OUT WITH YOU, then yes that will happen. So just be yourself, be calm, confident and introduce yourself and ask her out, she's not gonna call you a freak... She'll take it as a compliment and either say yes or no, it's much simpler than what you are making it out to be.
Be confident, be calm, be secure. A girl likes confidence, a girl needs security, so don't make her feel unsafe is all I can say. -Don't act like a freak and she won't call you one- :)
@Bronxsy: Go That's hit-or-miss guys... and judging from the op having to seek advice on this forum, the odds are not in his favor.
@ OP
Questions:
Is your mutual friend a girl or a guy? And how far would this person go to help you out?
And if you are indeed wraith's son, have you considered talking to your dad? The game hasn't changed THAT much over time.
General guidelines:
General Tip for Dating
On Confidence
First Priority
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Gotta love bullet points. And do i sense the advent of a new subforum? D:
Stop being so boring;p
That crossed my mind too;p
Nothing to really add myself. These threads make me lol(in a good way ofc);p
Oh and *Waves to errin* ;o ^^
When we say be confident, it isn't hard. It's not changing who you are. It's changing your mindset. Think positive about yourself, think it will happen, that's all you have to do to be confident. Think & Believe in yourself, that's being confident. It's not to change who you are or how you talk but so you are more positive going into the conversation.
If it's hard to think & believe in something, especially when it's yourself, then yeah I guess it's asking too much... :P
Same thing with me and dual exersise phys gym classes. It makes it WAAAAAAAY easier to just stay positive and fight!
You have to be straight forward. Walk up to her with swagga and be like...
- hey baby what's up. Your looking fine and I want you to be mine. What time should I pick you up 2night.
or
- girl your fine so I'm going to give you a dime :hand her a dime: because you are a fine piece...
or
- yo baby whats up do you have some :insert racial color: in you? Would you like some?
or pull a vanilla ice
- hey baby why don't you drop the zero and get with a hero? word to yo' mutha.
or
- Hi my name is :insert name here: I have been watching you a long long time and I think you are pretty. Will you go out with me I think our love is fated and we are meant to be together forever. I love you.
or
- walk up to her at a party and wait to she is drunk and be like... hey baby wanna do it in the bathroom....
J/K you don't need a gimmick or catch phrase to get a young ladies attention. Just be yourself kid. Most young ladies like to chase behind boys not the other way around. It is pretty hard to say what will catch the attention of a young lady because everybody is different. Simply try to find out what she likes and when the oportunity presents itself try to strike up a conversation and build a dialogue. Try to read what type of girl she is and if your personality meshes. The pretty ones aren't always the best option because most are vein and insecure and fickle and they get more attention. Learn to set the bar for yourself... don't go for a 10 when your a 5. I do not know how old you are but don't rush. If your in high school or middle school simply try to be friends with her and find a common club or interest.
Try to start out by trying to set up a group date at the movies or something with friends just to hang out. If she says yes move on from there if she says no the just keep it moving... chances are your just infatuated but I really do not know the situation. Be persistant but not too persistant or else you will have a big fat restraining order...
good luck
@Reaper872: Go
You my friend may have never been to a club or spring break... people hook-up all of the time with people by just randomly walking up to them and introducing themselves.
However this strategy works better if you are confident, good looking, popular, or if your in high school if you have a job and a car. In High School nothing is more attractive to a young lady than a boy with a car in which she can date and drive around. If you have a car you have an edge up on most boys.
You have a 50/50 shot. I would suggest practicing on other girls that are not so attractive before you go for the gold. establish a method but most improtantly be yourself
BTW he already said shes a friend of a friend....
I hate judging people of their looks but it's very hard not to. The "ugly" ones might be better personalities than the flaming hot and perfect skin ones, agreed. But yeah I'm too young to go clubbing. I'm 16 and a Junior in HS. I don't need a GF quite yet but I am interested in such things :)
Well in that case he can introduce himself as so-and-so's friend. But imagine being on the street, some completely random person who you have never seen before walks up to you, and says that.
Girls are confusing when you are 15/16 :(.
And from what I heard they get even more confusing when you get older ><
@wOlfLisK: Go
They get much more confusing... till you find one that isnt.
I have to say this reply made me lol. Not because it's bad advice, but because I'm imagining this to be a high school girl. Imagine someone walking up to you and going "Good day old chap, I've seen you with X, and I wanted to introduce myself personally". Can't make that work without owning a top hat, monocle and cigar, tbh.
As for general advice; Soulcarver's advice was fairly sound, just don't fully take it to heart. Like pointed out earlier, just showing outright fear might work as well, but just cornering some 'random' girl and going "Hey, lets go out" comes across as creepy more than anything else. No need to wait too long with making a move, but I'd at least make sure she knows your name and that you've talked a couple of times and likes you. Nobody wants to go to the theatre with a random boy they only know by face.
@Mozared: Go
pip pip... cherrio.
Yeah I would say it depends on the personality of the young lady. Maybe the chick is weird and is into that kind of stuff.
and @ 14/15 yrs. old... do you really need a girl/boy friend? have they even decended yet? Honestly what would you do on a date? Play pokemon cards. and the go out and see a disney flick then eat out at mc donalds? I tell you kids grown up to quickly these days thanks to that damn MTV.
as a old man at 24 I must say having a girlfriend around that age was pointless. I mean I had a so called girl friend however we really didn't do anything... I'm actually thinking about a girlfriend I had when i was 13 or 14. We would holding hands.. the furthest we went was me touching her bum... hugging and kissing. We really only ever hung out at school. Mind you I lived on a military base and went to school on a military base so pretty much everyone who lived in the community went to the school we were in... that ended pretty badly on a valentines day that I was sick or something and she was all emotional and bummed. It was kind of weird because her mom kind of encouraged it and said that we could actually date when she was 15... teehee
Ah childhood memories... erhem excuse me I had a point which was... I understand your interest at that age and if you want to be sucessful this is what you do. Get a summer job and save up your money (hopefully your parents are trust worthy... I regret letting my parents hold on to some of my first paychecks to save because they ended up spending the money I saved... I never seen the full amount back and they tried to justify it by saying well... we put a roof over your head... um you have to I freaking 16 mom!!!! stop buy useless crap) study to get your drivers license early and then save your money for a car and try to get on your parents insurrence. Hopefully you score with a family member being able to purchase you a vehicle. By the time you are 16 or 17 in high school... you will easily be able to get a girlfriend... you can do cool things like ditch school to eat lunch or go to the mall... I'm tired so I am going to end my rant here
.......You have a one track mind.
Just as hint : if you ask a girl for a date - don't , simply DON'T ask for a date to the following places:
anything were you think "we can be alone" - because she will think "iam alone with that guy ... there for a bunch of time ... so No"
look for something in public were you/her can leave as needed
or in other words, don't be creepy & needy