Hey, this is WraithChasers son (we both use this account) and I have a question for everyone, how can I get a girl that doesn't even know who I am, like literally I am friends with someone who is like best friends with her, but she doesnt know me. How could I get her to know I exist and talk to her, she doesnt even go to the same school and I have no idea how to meet her, any ideas guys?
You could ask your mutual friend to introduce you to her. It's typically easier to break the ice if you're not trying to do so solo.
You could also simply take a deep breath, walk over, and say hello. Mention the mutual friend as a reason for the attempt at contact. "I've seen you with so and so, and I wanted to introduce myself personally." Being direct is from what I know the best way to break that sort of invisibility shell. I would say try to approach her as simply another person rather then just as a girl as well. Keeping in mind that she's a human like you are might help to dispel the nervousness, if you're having a case of the jitters when you try and approach her.
I'm going to tell you the most impossible thing ever: No rush. If you can find a way (or tip) here to weasel in, then good for you; but if you don't, you'll find someone else anyway (eventually) and probably better but you just got to be patient... I realize this looking back on some of the years of my life now.
Ask your friend to introduce you to her. Make it casual. Create an opportunity for this to happen. Talk to her like you would your friend. Girls can tell if you've got some ulterior motive so yeah, it gets pretty tough.
Just some advice, nothing is ever fated. It's all coincidence. Girls can be very picky with a guys attitude so.. Maintain a positive one, be confident. They don't seem to like it when guys keep complaining/whining as well. Its not to say you can't show emotion, but show it conservatively. Another thing, have ambition, I've heard here and there that girls like a man who thrives to keep moving forward and improving themselves.
I find it fascinating that sc2mapster is now famous for solving these kind of problem. I should open a sub forum for it so its separated from off topic.
Also I dont think I throwing some cents of mine into this is a good idea so sorry for a non-constructive post.
I find it fascinating that sc2mapster is now famous for solving these
kind of problem. I should open a sub forum for it so its separated from
off topic.
Also I dont think I throwing some cents of mine into this is a good idea
so sorry for a non-constructive post.
Yeah, I should get a red name with a heart symbol for posting in so many love threads.
I find it fascinating that sc2mapster is now famous for solving these kind of problem. I should open a sub forum for it so its separated from off topic.
Also I dont think I throwing some cents of mine into this is a good idea so sorry for a non-constructive post.
Well, map editing is considered complicated and difficult. What the hell does that have in common with girls... oh wait.
On a more serious note: Many mapping or other gaming community forums have a huge offtopic section, usually also containing a love, relationship and sexuality forum.
Sorry for another non-constructive post, but believe me, you are better off not taking any advice from me when its about girls ;)
A big tip would be, that you need to be confident. Girls love confidence. If you start talking and think there's no chance she'll go out with you, it probably won't happen. So just go talk to her thinking in your head that she is gonna go out with you and if she doesn't then it's her lost. You have nothing to lose and possible a sweet girl to gain. So as my Nike buddies like to say, just do it!
That is if she is interested. If she's not she'd probably just throw it away. There must be some kinda way to create interest, though even I myself lack the understanding to explain it. If you know how to push her buttons, that might generate interest.. For example, if she's a hot chick, think about how the majority of the population would react. They'd be intimidated. You need to distinct yourself from those other guys, don't be afraid to defy her. Don't go about with a "I'd do anything to be with you" attitude. Somehow this creates an adverse reaction..
From my understanding.. they're emotions work very strangely. Lets just say they want attention. If you don't give it to them heres what would probably happen: Hot chick + average looking chick. Talk to the average looking chick, ignore the hot one. The hot one's confidence drivers will kick in wondering why the average chick is getting the attention, then she will keep trying to get your attention. Give it to her in small amounts, but don't suck up to her. Stand your ground. You fall head over heels, you lose. Use logic, not emotion. That's apparently what we as men are supposed to do. We show emotions/signs of weakness girl bails.
You create interest by having the balls to walk up to her and say "Hey I was thinking you might wanna catch a movie with me, this friday" (wink or give her that smile and pause.) Then you say "What you think, you wanna see a movie with me this friday".
If you wait .. and just stare and worry over it... chicks pick up on that ... they can smell fear.
If she says no.... well then it just wasnt ment to be.
It comes down to attitude a lot of the time with women, regardless of age. Show no fear. The only thing to fear is fear itself.
Hey, this is WraithChasers son (we both use this account) and I have a question for everyone, how can I get a girl that doesn't even know who I am, like literally I am friends with someone who is like best friends with her, but she doesnt know me. How could I get her to know I exist and talk to her, she doesnt even go to the same school and I have no idea how to meet her, any ideas guys?
You could ask your mutual friend to introduce you to her. It's typically easier to break the ice if you're not trying to do so solo.
You could also simply take a deep breath, walk over, and say hello. Mention the mutual friend as a reason for the attempt at contact. "I've seen you with so and so, and I wanted to introduce myself personally." Being direct is from what I know the best way to break that sort of invisibility shell. I would say try to approach her as simply another person rather then just as a girl as well. Keeping in mind that she's a human like you are might help to dispel the nervousness, if you're having a case of the jitters when you try and approach her.
I'm going to tell you the most impossible thing ever: No rush. If you can find a way (or tip) here to weasel in, then good for you; but if you don't, you'll find someone else anyway (eventually) and probably better but you just got to be patient... I realize this looking back on some of the years of my life now.
Wait wait....
Why do you want a girl that you have never talked before? You don't know her. Maybe she sucks, is retarded, or doesn't play Starcraft.
My advice is to you first know her good enough to avoid breaking ur heart later. And, as onetwo said above, no rush.
Ask your friend to introduce you to her. Make it casual. Create an opportunity for this to happen. Talk to her like you would your friend. Girls can tell if you've got some ulterior motive so yeah, it gets pretty tough.
Just some advice, nothing is ever fated. It's all coincidence. Girls can be very picky with a guys attitude so.. Maintain a positive one, be confident. They don't seem to like it when guys keep complaining/whining as well. Its not to say you can't show emotion, but show it conservatively. Another thing, have ambition, I've heard here and there that girls like a man who thrives to keep moving forward and improving themselves.
Stagnate, and you lose.
Thats just my 2 cents.
I find it fascinating that sc2mapster is now famous for solving these kind of problem. I should open a sub forum for it so its separated from off topic.
Also I dont think I throwing some cents of mine into this is a good idea so sorry for a non-constructive post.
Yeah, I should get a red name with a heart symbol for posting in so many love threads.
Well, map editing is considered complicated and difficult. What the hell does that have in common with girls... oh wait.
On a more serious note: Many mapping or other gaming community forums have a huge offtopic section, usually also containing a love, relationship and sexuality forum.
Sorry for another non-constructive post, but believe me, you are better off not taking any advice from me when its about girls ;)
Your son WraithChaser... Really? Come on. ;-)
@Kueken531: Go
Girls are more complicated than the Data Editor ... IMO
Somebody ... start a wiki / tutorial for that.
Agreed 100%
You volunteer?
@SouLCarveRR: Go
That just might take an eternity to complete. lol.
Got Barney Stinson's number?
Also, srry for yet another non-constructive post in this thread. I'm probably the last guy to give advice on anything like this...
We probably all are. Hey, its a mapping community here, we might have a pretty high nerd concentration :D
@WraithChaser: Go's Son
I suggest you manage to ask her on a date the next chance you get. Something simple like a movie.
Then depending on how much you like her, maybe get her a flower when you go on your date. Chicks love that shit.
@WraithChaser: Go
A big tip would be, that you need to be confident. Girls love confidence. If you start talking and think there's no chance she'll go out with you, it probably won't happen. So just go talk to her thinking in your head that she is gonna go out with you and if she doesn't then it's her lost. You have nothing to lose and possible a sweet girl to gain. So as my Nike buddies like to say, just do it!
You have to knock her with a wooden club and drag her to your cave.
@SouLCarveRR: Go
That is if she is interested. If she's not she'd probably just throw it away. There must be some kinda way to create interest, though even I myself lack the understanding to explain it. If you know how to push her buttons, that might generate interest.. For example, if she's a hot chick, think about how the majority of the population would react. They'd be intimidated. You need to distinct yourself from those other guys, don't be afraid to defy her. Don't go about with a "I'd do anything to be with you" attitude. Somehow this creates an adverse reaction..
From my understanding.. they're emotions work very strangely. Lets just say they want attention. If you don't give it to them heres what would probably happen: Hot chick + average looking chick. Talk to the average looking chick, ignore the hot one. The hot one's confidence drivers will kick in wondering why the average chick is getting the attention, then she will keep trying to get your attention. Give it to her in small amounts, but don't suck up to her. Stand your ground. You fall head over heels, you lose. Use logic, not emotion. That's apparently what we as men are supposed to do. We show emotions/signs of weakness girl bails.
Meh.
@FuzzYD: Go
You create interest by having the balls to walk up to her and say "Hey I was thinking you might wanna catch a movie with me, this friday" (wink or give her that smile and pause.) Then you say "What you think, you wanna see a movie with me this friday".
If you wait .. and just stare and worry over it... chicks pick up on that ... they can smell fear.
If she says no.... well then it just wasnt ment to be.
It comes down to attitude a lot of the time with women, regardless of age. Show no fear. The only thing to fear is fear itself.
@SouLCarveRR: Go
Couldn't have worded that better myself. Come to think of it, It's a lot about havin the balls and not being afraid/intimidated by her.